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		<title>By: Mister Terrific</title>
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		<dc:creator>Mister Terrific</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Aug 2010 02:07:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I have time.  

You do know Dad&#039;s got some mental illness going on, I trust.  He&#039;s got Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and might even be bipolar.  He&#039;s certainly depressed, but that&#039;s not surprising.   

OK, let&#039;s deal with your issues.  

The clutter:  Go to Mailboxes, Etc. (or your local  supermarket--free there) and get some boxes (with the tops intact).  Get some packing tape, and some newspaper or other packing materials.  Pack up those computers, two to a box, three if they&#039;ll fit, and stack those boxes in the garage  Label the boxes (example SILVER DELL DESKTOP, BEIGE ACER DESKTOP) so dad can find the computer  he wants without opening every box.  Take contractor garbage bags, cut them in half, and wrap the monitors in them--taping the plastic securely with duct tape, and affix a label to them--e.g. DELL MONITOR.    Tell Dad if he wants to fix &quot;a&quot; computer, he should do that, but his mess is making you miserable and it is making him look mentally unstable as well, so you just aren&#039;t going to live with computers everywhere anymore.      If he has any other oddball crap, box that up too, label the box with a list of the contents, and stack those boxes up--he&#039;s going to have to move them when he moves out, so you&#039;re just giving him a head start (odds are your mother is going to have to pay to dispose of all those computers, unless she can find someone who will take them for the recycling materials in them--the gold and so forth).  

Your father&#039;s illness:  If you know the name of his shrink, call him.  Tell the shrink you realize you aren&#039;t the patient and you can&#039;t get feedback about his condition, but you&#039;re concerned that &quot;the patient&quot; isn&#039;t being truthful with the shrink about the home situation and you want to have a one-way conversation with the man.  Discuss the hoarding and clutter specifically.   Tell the shrink about your father&#039;s odd behaviors and don&#039;t leave anything out.  You can ask the shrink to not tell your father you called, if you would prefer.   

Tell your father you won&#039;t be seeing him fifty percent of the time unless there is an effort to get a handle on the mess.  You are willing to help, because you love him, but you aren&#039;t going to do it all and you aren&#039;t going to be a doormat.  If he wants to collect junk in the driveway, he needs to get that junk gone REGULARLY--every week he needs to have a clear out.  If he doesn&#039;t do this, you&#039;re going to stay at mom&#039;s -- not because you don&#039;t care for him, but because you don&#039;t care for his piggy ways.  

If you get stuck giving testimony as a consequence of the divorce, you tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but.    That includes the bad stuff.    Your father&#039;s delusions of grandeur during what could be manic phases are causing him to babble on about the settlement he thinks he&#039;s getting.  Trust me, no judge in the world is going to award him that kind of money.  He&#039;ll be lucky if he gets anything.  If he gets enough to settle into an efficiency apartment, he&#039;ll be fortunate (make sure he gets one with a storage area, so you can get rid of those computers at his new place).  

I&#039;m sorry you are dealing with this.  It sucks when kids have to be more responsible than their parents.  You&#039;re a good kid.  Hang in there.&lt;br&gt;&lt;b&gt;References : &lt;/b&gt;&lt;br&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have time.  </p>
<p>You do know Dad&#8217;s got some mental illness going on, I trust.  He&#8217;s got Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and might even be bipolar.  He&#8217;s certainly depressed, but that&#8217;s not surprising.   </p>
<p>OK, let&#8217;s deal with your issues.  </p>
<p>The clutter:  Go to Mailboxes, Etc. (or your local  supermarket&#8211;free there) and get some boxes (with the tops intact).  Get some packing tape, and some newspaper or other packing materials.  Pack up those computers, two to a box, three if they&#8217;ll fit, and stack those boxes in the garage  Label the boxes (example SILVER DELL DESKTOP, BEIGE ACER DESKTOP) so dad can find the computer  he wants without opening every box.  Take contractor garbage bags, cut them in half, and wrap the monitors in them&#8211;taping the plastic securely with duct tape, and affix a label to them&#8211;e.g. DELL MONITOR.    Tell Dad if he wants to fix &quot;a&quot; computer, he should do that, but his mess is making you miserable and it is making him look mentally unstable as well, so you just aren&#8217;t going to live with computers everywhere anymore.      If he has any other oddball crap, box that up too, label the box with a list of the contents, and stack those boxes up&#8211;he&#8217;s going to have to move them when he moves out, so you&#8217;re just giving him a head start (odds are your mother is going to have to pay to dispose of all those computers, unless she can find someone who will take them for the recycling materials in them&#8211;the gold and so forth).  </p>
<p>Your father&#8217;s illness:  If you know the name of his shrink, call him.  Tell the shrink you realize you aren&#8217;t the patient and you can&#8217;t get feedback about his condition, but you&#8217;re concerned that &quot;the patient&quot; isn&#8217;t being truthful with the shrink about the home situation and you want to have a one-way conversation with the man.  Discuss the hoarding and clutter specifically.   Tell the shrink about your father&#8217;s odd behaviors and don&#8217;t leave anything out.  You can ask the shrink to not tell your father you called, if you would prefer.   </p>
<p>Tell your father you won&#8217;t be seeing him fifty percent of the time unless there is an effort to get a handle on the mess.  You are willing to help, because you love him, but you aren&#8217;t going to do it all and you aren&#8217;t going to be a doormat.  If he wants to collect junk in the driveway, he needs to get that junk gone REGULARLY&#8211;every week he needs to have a clear out.  If he doesn&#8217;t do this, you&#8217;re going to stay at mom&#8217;s &#8212; not because you don&#8217;t care for him, but because you don&#8217;t care for his piggy ways.  </p>
<p>If you get stuck giving testimony as a consequence of the divorce, you tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but.    That includes the bad stuff.    Your father&#8217;s delusions of grandeur during what could be manic phases are causing him to babble on about the settlement he thinks he&#8217;s getting.  Trust me, no judge in the world is going to award him that kind of money.  He&#8217;ll be lucky if he gets anything.  If he gets enough to settle into an efficiency apartment, he&#8217;ll be fortunate (make sure he gets one with a storage area, so you can get rid of those computers at his new place).  </p>
<p>I&#8217;m sorry you are dealing with this.  It sucks when kids have to be more responsible than their parents.  You&#8217;re a good kid.  Hang in there.<br /><b>References : </b></p>
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		<title>By: kimberly_oyler</title>
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		<dc:creator>kimberly_oyler</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Aug 2010 02:05:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;m sorry to hear about your situation... I was stuck in the middle of my parents&#039; divorce when I was younger and its sad to know that children have to experience this. It was a nasty split and very traumatic for my brother and I.

First of all, it sounds like your father is the one who is all about the money. He just wants to sit on his butt and let your mom do all the work and support him, not you. I don&#039;t know much about your particular situation so I can&#039;t really give you advice, but if your mother switched jobs to less pay, the courts should be made aware of this and make adjustments to the amount of child support. 

I can&#039;t stand hoarders OR alcoholics, either... Where is your mother? Have you considered staying with her? Maybe this will open his eyes to get his act together. I also believe that if you are living with your mother, he would have to pay HER for child support.. instead of vice versa. It seems like your father could be doing more to provide a healthier environment for you. A little less clutter and alcohol.... I&#039;m assuming with his condition he&#039;s getting social security, but I believe he could do more about the job situation, also.&lt;br&gt;&lt;b&gt;References : &lt;/b&gt;&lt;br&gt;Personal experience</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m sorry to hear about your situation&#8230; I was stuck in the middle of my parents&#8217; divorce when I was younger and its sad to know that children have to experience this. It was a nasty split and very traumatic for my brother and I.</p>
<p>First of all, it sounds like your father is the one who is all about the money. He just wants to sit on his butt and let your mom do all the work and support him, not you. I don&#8217;t know much about your particular situation so I can&#8217;t really give you advice, but if your mother switched jobs to less pay, the courts should be made aware of this and make adjustments to the amount of child support. </p>
<p>I can&#8217;t stand hoarders OR alcoholics, either&#8230; Where is your mother? Have you considered staying with her? Maybe this will open his eyes to get his act together. I also believe that if you are living with your mother, he would have to pay HER for child support.. instead of vice versa. It seems like your father could be doing more to provide a healthier environment for you. A little less clutter and alcohol&#8230;. I&#8217;m assuming with his condition he&#8217;s getting social security, but I believe he could do more about the job situation, also.<br /><b>References : </b><br />Personal experience</p>
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		<title>By: apple free1</title>
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		<dc:creator>apple free1</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Aug 2010 02:03:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Well to tell you the truth you can&#039;t do a dang thing about the way your father acts if he does not want to change. If he likes the way things are right now then there isn&#039;t much you can do besides try to change his mind about the way he lives. If you can do that then maybe you can get him to go to a social group like the Ymca or something similar to that. The problem with the money is that your dad is probably greedy and just wants the money even if he doesn&#039;t intend to buy anything with it. If your mom really can&#039;t afford his demands ask a lawyer if you can get a court order to get the amount of money he get reduced other than that I don&#039;t know what to tell you.&lt;br&gt;&lt;b&gt;References : &lt;/b&gt;&lt;br&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Well to tell you the truth you can&#8217;t do a dang thing about the way your father acts if he does not want to change. If he likes the way things are right now then there isn&#8217;t much you can do besides try to change his mind about the way he lives. If you can do that then maybe you can get him to go to a social group like the Ymca or something similar to that. The problem with the money is that your dad is probably greedy and just wants the money even if he doesn&#8217;t intend to buy anything with it. If your mom really can&#8217;t afford his demands ask a lawyer if you can get a court order to get the amount of money he get reduced other than that I don&#8217;t know what to tell you.<br /><b>References : </b></p>
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		<title>By: lee lee</title>
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		<dc:creator>lee lee</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Aug 2010 02:01:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>did your mother leave because he was an alcoholic? im assuming that...and why didnt you go with her full time if that is the reason she left..unless you&#039;re over 18 then i can see why...because you are living in an unsanitary environment from what your description is, and it sounds to me like he is only wasting his time and yours as well. but you could try suggesting to your dad that the house is a wreck and maybe he would like to help you clean it up..and that ya&#039;ll could sell some things and gain some money for bills or whatever you want to use it for..sorry, i know this isnt much help..but its all i could think of.. : )&lt;br&gt;&lt;b&gt;References : &lt;/b&gt;&lt;br&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>did your mother leave because he was an alcoholic? im assuming that&#8230;and why didnt you go with her full time if that is the reason she left..unless you&#8217;re over 18 then i can see why&#8230;because you are living in an unsanitary environment from what your description is, and it sounds to me like he is only wasting his time and yours as well. but you could try suggesting to your dad that the house is a wreck and maybe he would like to help you clean it up..and that ya&#8217;ll could sell some things and gain some money for bills or whatever you want to use it for..sorry, i know this isnt much help..but its all i could think of.. : )<br /><b>References : </b></p>
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		<title>By: .</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Aug 2010 01:59:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I seriously doubt the courts will give your father support.  He&#039;s a drunk.  He needs professional help to get over it, and he needs to get up off his butt and get a job.&lt;br&gt;&lt;b&gt;References : &lt;/b&gt;&lt;br&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I seriously doubt the courts will give your father support.  He&#8217;s a drunk.  He needs professional help to get over it, and he needs to get up off his butt and get a job.<br /><b>References : </b></p>
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		<title>By: Noah.</title>
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		<dc:creator>Noah.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 01 Aug 2010 20:57:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;b&gt;It&#039;s long, but if you have time, please answer. I really need help.?&lt;/b&gt;&lt;br&gt;Yes, I know it&#039;s long. But it&#039;s really important to me, and if you have any answers on what I should do please tell me.

I&#039;ll start from the beginning, there&#039;s kind of two questions I guess.

My father is an alcoholic. He has gotten a lot better in the past year, he used to drink for a week straight, then not drink for a week, then drink for a week and so on. It wasn&#039;t always that bad, but sometimes it was. Now he&#039;s so much better, and he only drinks like one day a month, but he drinks until he&#039;s totally wasted. But compared to before, I&#039;m happy for him. My mom left him a year and a half ago. They&#039;re going to court for their divorce in about a week or so. My dad wants so much money from my mom. She made a lot of money last year, and that&#039;s what his support is based on. But she recently switched jobs because he other one was too stressful. What my dad is asking for per month is more than my mom brings home each month. He doesn&#039;t care though. My mom pays for all the house bills and mortgage still because she&#039;s getting back in here after the divorce. She pays for all of his gas and all of his groceries. Yet he doesn&#039;t seem to think its enough. He also wants around $90,000 back support. I try talking to him about it and he&#039;s saying my mom is all about money, she wouldn&#039;t switch jobs if she made less money. But she told me how much she makes, and its about $1000 less than what he&#039;s asking for. I stay with my mom and dad about 50/50. I love them both, but I don&#039;t know what to do, he&#039;s being such a jerk. How can I convince him that he doesn&#039;t need that much every month. Because he barely buys anything, so he really doesn&#039;t need that much.

Now for the other part. My dad is starting to hoard. There is clutter all over the counter, all over the living room, all over every single room in the house except for the bathrooms. But he&#039;s so lazy and rarely cleans, so I always have to do it, but I have no where to put all his shit so I really can&#039;t clean well. But he gets all this stuff planning to do something with it. He has like 17 computer monitors just in the living room, and like 20 computer towers stacked around the house and keyboards and mice and everything because he&#039;s planning on fixing computer and selling them for extra money. He started this like 5 months ago and has only fixed one but that was only a week ago and now he has to fix the internet or something on it first but of course he&#039;s too lazy. He uses the excuse that he is on so many medications and that its a side effect but I don&#039;t care. It&#039;s getting so bad that I haven&#039;t had friends over since June. I told him it&#039;s embarassing, that I hate it, that I&#039;m embarassed to have people over, and he&#039;s like &quot;its the only way I have to earn money&quot; but he doesn&#039;t even buy himself anything ever :S And then, he started collecting scrap metal and bringing it to some place that they give money for it. But he let&#039;s it all collect up in the driveway before he brings it. And he just get&#039;s all these ideas in his head and wants to do them so he starts getting the stuff for it and never follows through. I mean, I don&#039;t really know what my question is, and I&#039;m just ranting I guess. But if anyone has a solution to my life, please help.

Oh right, don&#039;t suggest for him to get a job because he wont. He had a major heart attack 3 years ago and says he cant do any physical jobs and that no one would hire someone with not even a high school education (he didn&#039;t go to high school because he stayed home to help his mom since she was sick). Yet he knows my moms sister and his brother both took some course that is 6 months and you get you&#039;re diploma.
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><b>It&#39;s long, but if you have time, please answer. I really need help.?</b><br />Yes, I know it&#8217;s long. But it&#8217;s really important to me, and if you have any answers on what I should do please tell me.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ll start from the beginning, there&#8217;s kind of two questions I guess.</p>
<p>My father is an alcoholic. He has gotten a lot better in the past year, he used to drink for a week straight, then not drink for a week, then drink for a week and so on. It wasn&#8217;t always that bad, but sometimes it was. Now he&#8217;s so much better, and he only drinks like one day a month, but he drinks until he&#8217;s totally wasted. But compared to before, I&#8217;m happy for him. My mom left him a year and a half ago. They&#8217;re going to court for their divorce in about a week or so. My dad wants so much money from my mom. She made a lot of money last year, and that&#8217;s what his support is based on. But she recently switched jobs because he other one was too stressful. What my dad is asking for per month is more than my mom brings home each month. He doesn&#8217;t care though. My mom pays for all the house bills and mortgage still because she&#8217;s getting back in here after the divorce. She pays for all of his gas and all of his groceries. Yet he doesn&#8217;t seem to think its enough. He also wants around $90,000 back support. I try talking to him about it and he&#8217;s saying my mom is all about money, she wouldn&#8217;t switch jobs if she made less money. But she told me how much she makes, and its about $1000 less than what he&#8217;s asking for. I stay with my mom and dad about 50/50. I love them both, but I don&#8217;t know what to do, he&#8217;s being such a jerk. How can I convince him that he doesn&#8217;t need that much every month. Because he barely buys anything, so he really doesn&#8217;t need that much.</p>
<p>Now for the other part. My dad is starting to hoard. There is clutter all over the counter, all over the living room, all over every single room in the house except for the bathrooms. But he&#8217;s so lazy and rarely cleans, so I always have to do it, but I have no where to put all his shit so I really can&#8217;t clean well. But he gets all this stuff planning to do something with it. He has like 17 computer monitors just in the living room, and like 20 computer towers stacked around the house and keyboards and mice and everything because he&#8217;s planning on fixing computer and selling them for extra money. He started this like 5 months ago and has only fixed one but that was only a week ago and now he has to fix the internet or something on it first but of course he&#8217;s too lazy. He uses the excuse that he is on so many medications and that its a side effect but I don&#8217;t care. It&#8217;s getting so bad that I haven&#8217;t had friends over since June. I told him it&#8217;s embarassing, that I hate it, that I&#8217;m embarassed to have people over, and he&#8217;s like &quot;its the only way I have to earn money&quot; but he doesn&#8217;t even buy himself anything ever :S And then, he started collecting scrap metal and bringing it to some place that they give money for it. But he let&#8217;s it all collect up in the driveway before he brings it. And he just get&#8217;s all these ideas in his head and wants to do them so he starts getting the stuff for it and never follows through. I mean, I don&#8217;t really know what my question is, and I&#8217;m just ranting I guess. But if anyone has a solution to my life, please help.</p>
<p>Oh right, don&#8217;t suggest for him to get a job because he wont. He had a major heart attack 3 years ago and says he cant do any physical jobs and that no one would hire someone with not even a high school education (he didn&#8217;t go to high school because he stayed home to help his mom since she was sick). Yet he knows my moms sister and his brother both took some course that is 6 months and you get you&#8217;re diploma.</p>
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